That question is the title of a recent, great Lou Reed song. It came up recently when I used the Shuffle function on my iPod. It briefly threw me into an inevitable ontological examination. Then I turned it off when I saw that Rocky IV was on, and wanted to hear Apollo Creed's trainer/coach tell Balboa to "hit the one in the middle."
It's not like I was on the verge of a great metaphysical breakthrough. A moral inventory always degenerates into a litany of bad things and regrets. And like the song popularized by Frank Sinatra, I reach the same conclusion: "I've had a few/But then again, too few to mention."
Every so often, I look back on my former self and marvel. It's not a stance that connotes impressiveness; rather, I'm more often incredulous. I can't believe what I said or did, and this most recent, focused example is no exception. A few years ago, I made the observation that past actions look ludicrous after a while, and I acknowledged that I would probably come to disavow my mindset then.
I did, of course. After a year or so, I now think about certain actions and behaviors and can't begin to validate them. It's possible that MS has sped up the time of my recognition/identification of such epochs, but I think it's more of a natural development of age. When you're a teenager, such a realization might embryonically make sense, but the import does not crystallize. "Yeah, yeah," you might say dismissively, but you don't really grasp the concept.
I scoffed and was mildly insulted when an ex-girlfriend's sister made this observation a while back. It was imperfect, and more aimed at someone's youth comparatively. She was 23 or so, and I was 21 or 22. In fact, the accusatory, judgmental tone should be faced inward. (It would have been nice to have had this rejoinder, but I felt besieged since I was younger by more than a year. Plus, I was only 21 or so, and such modes of thinking were elusive.)
Simple age isn't enough to assert one's superior maturity (which of course sounds condescending and pedagogical). Numerous idiots with whom I was in rehab had stunted their personal growth with drugs and alcohol. They were stuck in the mindset that they had whenever they began their destructive abuse of whatever their preferred substance was. (Unfortunately, this was very young for my dad, who always seemed like an immature teenager to me. Not just a teenager, mind you--an IMMATURE one, which sounds redundant but, I assure you, is not.)
I wouldn't even know what to call myself now: Mach 5? At this point, such temporal divisions are impossible to count. Obviously that's not true, because I'm still in my 20s. The truth is, I'm lazy and don't want to count. Plus it'd probably be imperfect.
I acknowledged before (not here, until now) that I am an unreliable, imperfect voice (anyone who's seen me karaoke might say "No shit."). Never, of course, has this seemed more true. I've clearly said it before, but now I mean it more emphatically than ever: don't listen to me.
But do.
R
